All of those can sound a bit condescending, especially to a sensitive soul, and some of these phrases I heard aimed at myself, too. I’m a white Russian immigrant and I work in tech industry. I wasn’t offended for the most part, some of these people were just trying to start or maintain a conversation, or come up with a nice thing to say. It’s cool. My stance is that artificially limiting what someone can or cannot say will not have a great impact on systemic issues overall. It has to be more of a fundamental change in the society that will lead to a change of mindset that will lead to people using better communication methods. But I do believe, however, that articles like the above and the discussion spawned from them will help us get better and even more “woke” if you will, so one day these issues will be completely annihilated.